Harem and Coercion

 Talking about wanting a harem

I told these people again and again, back when I was living in Khandallah, which might be 24 months ago now, and when we first raised the issue of harems, that I did not want a harem.

They asked me again and again, “do you want a harem”, “do you want a harem”. I said no, not really. I don’t want a harem on your terms. It would be too coercive. And I don’t want to coerce women into having sex with me. It’s not my cup of tea.

By “harem” they meant do you want to have a bunch of “friends with benefits” supplied to you by us? Or if I were to use their language: By “harem” they meant do you want to have a bunch of “fuck buddies” supplied to you by us? Their preferred term was “fuck buddies”, I would have preferred the term “girl friends” or (voluntary) “friends with benefits relationships.”

Note: they wanted the harem to be a decentralised system of fuck buddies.

Note 2: Also, the women wanted to *be* the supply of fuck buddies. They wanted to *be* the harem.

I told them many, many, many times that I would prefer not to associate with them. And that I didn’t want a harem on their terms, and that I believed their type of harem to inherently coercive. To women.

But anyway, they used violence and threats to get me to “fight” for their harem. That is, to fight for the right to get them into bed, coercively.

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Unbeknownst to me, they pretended that my mind had been wiped. And that I had been “de-logos’d”, whatever that means. I’m not actually sure if it means anything sensible. I don't think that it means anything much.

But because of that assumption they felt entitled to ignore the things that I told them in favour of merely looking at my mental images and impressions. 

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They also ignored me when I said things like, “I want nothing to do with you. You are all perverts, creeps and horrible people. If I had my way, I’d get healthy, leave town and never so much as speak to a single one of you again.”

They ignored me when I told them that I didn’t want them (the women) in my house, let alone my bed.

They ignored me when I told them that I would prefer to remain celibate.

They ignored me when I said that, “I just don’t value it”. That is, sex from a fae concubine aka dregvant sex worker.

They ignored me when I said, through playing music, to just “shut up and let me go!”.

The ignored me when I said that I just wanted to go back to university to study something like science. And that getting involved with them would be a bad and sad thing to have to do.

They also tried to define the system of harems as “domination” rather than coercion. But I think that’s an inferior choice of word. And I think that coercion is a much better choice of word.

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Coercion: 

“Coercion is the act of forcing someone to do something against their will through the use of threats, intimidation, or actual force. It removes a person's free will by putting them in fear of negative consequences if they do not comply.”

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I tried to tell them that I didn't want to have a harem, because it's inherently coercive to the women. And I feel that that should be taken into account. I didn't want any of this.

Ps: unrelated matter.

Some people have been lying, and suggesting that between the age of 20 and 22 that Brynn Huso was a "prospective lover". The truth is that she was merely a friend to me, not a prospective lover.

That's the quick version.

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And also they suggested that when she came to our home at 5 Weka Road, and visited to use our dining room table for sewing, or that when she used to show up after work and sat down in the lounge to wait for Amanda to show up back home so that she could socialise with her, that these were incidents of a romantic nature.

These were not incidents of a romantic or sexual nature. These were not decoded or interpreted as romantic advances by me. I did not see them as romantic advances, I did not feel that she was flirting with me. And I did not see her as a prospective romantic partner. She was a friend of mine, and a close friend of Amanda's. To me, Brynn was simply visiting because there wasn't enough space for her sewing stuff at home, or because she was waiting for Amanda to show up after Amanda finished commuting home for work.

Also, Amanda and I were married.

Finally, I think that Brynn + Siobhan confused and misled the computer system into thinking that these were events with romantic or relational undertones to them. I'm not sure what they did, but whatever it was, I think that it was dumb and dishonest. They are delusional.